never had sex on camera. Not even in a homemade
video. I showed up for the set that day and it was
like 'I'm going to be gang banged by ten porn stars.
Men and women. They are all going to fuck my ass
and this is the first time I've done it.'"
a suitcase full of lube, butt plugs and assorted
probing devices, Tristan Taormino straddles the
worlds of sex activism and porn like a wicked, bespectacled
black-stockinged professor of anal sex. To say that
Taormino is excited about anal sex would be a colossal
Tristan Taormino's Guide to Anal Sex for Women,
she approached a wide range of adult film industry
players with the prospect of turning out a video
version of the book but could interest no one. "They
looked at me like I had two heads. It was like 'We
don't understand this.' I would go in there and
say I want to do this video. I want it to be educational.
I want it to be focused on women and women's pleasure.
It was like 'What are you crazy?'"
of attempting to fuse an anal sex instructional
video with a gonzo porn film seemed plentiful to
all, including John "Buttman" Stagliano, who eventually
agreed to take a chance on Taormino's far flung
concept. The chance paid off. The highly successful
video won three awards and made Stagliano a buttload
of cash. It culminates with Taormino's first on-screen
sex scene in which she is violated by the entire
cast, a memorable debut that won both the AVN and
XRCO awards in the best group sex scene categories.
speaker, sex advocate and porn performer, the newly
christened "Buttgirl" materializes as a giggly,
speculum wielding alpha woman dedicated to promoting
the art of back door love to all who will listen.
Her website, www.puckerup.com, is filled
with sex tips, favorite toys and archives of her
large publishing catalog. Taormino currently holds
court as the resident "Anal Advisor" at Taboo
Magazine, writes a sex advisory column for the
Village Voice and has just released the long
awaited Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women
Part Two. She's perpetually on tour, giving
seminars and spreading the word (she was in Portland
last month). Somehow she still found time to sit
down with Exotic:
When did you first have anal sex?
TT: My first
anal sex experience was actually with a woman. When
I started sleeping with women I felt that straight
sex should be thrown out the window and all body
parts and all sexual acts were fair game. The first
time I tried it I loved it and I got hooked pretty
Can you orgasm from having anal sex alone?
always a big question. Yes and no. Most times I
like to really have my clit worked while I'm being
fucked in the ass so I'll have an orgasm which you
could attribute to clitoral stimulation although
it's definitely a different orgasm than if you were
just touching my clit and nothing was in my ass.
It's a deeper, more intense orgasm that is sort
of like a whole body orgasm. I've also had more
of a G-spot orgasm from anal penetration when the
G-spot is indirectly stimulated. There are women
like Alisha Klass who can actually squirt just from
anal penetration so we know that we're hitting the
In one scene you were sticking things up Nina Hartley's
ass and she was getting her clit worked at the same
time and Nina remarked that she felt that if she
wasn't getting her clit worked that it might hurt.
TT: For some
women that's true. Anal alone just isn't comfortable
without clitoral stimulation. For some women it's
the total opposite. Chloe for example just wants
you to do her ass.
Chloe is the anal queen.
TT: She is,
So her attitude is that she would rather have
just anal without other distractions?
my girlfriend is the same way. When you are in her
ass she doesn't want you near her clit. She wants
you to just concentrate on her ass and her G-spot.
Tell me about the anal sex seminars that you do.
TT: My book
came out in late 1997 and I needed a clever way
to promote my book. This is not the kind of book
that lends itself to the traditional book reading.
Certainly Barnes and Noble is not ready to blow
up the cover and put it in the window and do a thing
like "Please meet our author today." That just wasn't
going to happen. So I started traveling around the
country teaching these anal sex workshops basically
to introduce people to the book and also find out
how much information people had and what kind of
questions they were asking. It continues to be a
totally phenomenal experience. The people that come
to my workshops are women, they're men, they're
couples, they're single, they're straight, they're
gay. They have had experience with anal sex or they
are complete anal virgins. I've had people as young
as 19 and I had a 71 year old woman who had just
started a new relationship and her partner wanted
to get into anal and she was like "OK, I'd like
to learn something new."
What kind of territory do you cover in the seminars?
TT: I usually
start out with an anatomy lesson because believe
it or not people don't always have a clue about
what is going on with their asses even though we
all have one. Then I talk about the whole cleanliness
factor. That is by far the biggest question I get
in workshops. Is it going to be a mess or do I have
to have an enema. Blah Blah Blah. I sort of go over
the basics of enemas but also talk about how it's
really not going to be that messy and you don't
necessarily have to have an enema to have relatively
clean anal sex. Then I talk about lube and sex toys,
positions and techniques, emphasizing that you really
need to go slow, you really need to warm up, you
really need to do a lot of foreplay and the more
effort that you put into it in the beginning the
more your ass will thank you in the end.
How did the video come about?
TT: As I traveled
around the country a lot of people asked me if I
was going to do a video. I'm definitely a big porn
fan and I definitely wanted to do a video and figured
that I basically had two options. I could beg, borrow
and steal and exploit all of my friends and have
them do shit for free and put it together on a shoestring
budget and try to distribute it myself and have
it be kind of homemade and low budget. Or I could
go directly to the man, i.e. the porn industry,
which of course as a lesbian and a feminist is not
the thing to do because you just don't go and sell
out to the man. But I did it anyway. I started investigating
the porn industry and tried to find out who the
players were. I had been a fan of Buttman's (John
Stagliano) and he was one of the people I pitched
to who had rejected it. About a month after this
wave of rejections he called me and said "You know
I've been re-reading this and I thought about it
and maybe this could work so let's have another
meeting." I wanted to cast all of these people that
I really liked, but I wanted actors who were really
into anal and not just like "OK whatever I'll do
the scene." It's like no I want you to be really
into anal and really into this project and be honest
on camera and I think that definitely came across.
There are so many authentic female orgasms in the
video. That was really important to me and that
is definitely what John thinks is one of the best
parts of it. There are all these women coming like
crazy which is great.
The sex in the video was killer but I actually
found myself looking forward to the other parts,
especially the classroom situations which were hilarious.
The scene when Chloe gets an enema is great.
TT: I really
love that scene because the repartee between the
three of them is so funny and so light and so genuine
that it makes such a taboo topic (an enema) seem
so fun. I feel that people who watch that are going
to want to run out and have an enema. How could
you not? They are just having such a great time.
When he pulled the tube out of her I expected
them to keep the expulsion in the shot.
TT: We actually
can't keep that in the shot. We did shoot that for
the European version, but you can't shoot an expulsion
in America. It was absolutely breathtakingly beautiful--this
amazing stream of clear water arching out of her
ass into the tub. It was phenomenal, it was beautiful,
it was breathtaking. I wish you could see it. We
left the sound in though as we faded to dark and
you can hear the expulsion. She squirted a little
in the camera too which was hysterical. John was
like "Whoa!!!" But it was totally crystal clear
water. You know, people still have their hang-ups.
The movie climaxes with you getting fucked and ravished
by everyone in the cast. Was that your first time
having sex on camera?
TT: Yes. I'd
actually never had sex on camera. Not even in a
homemade video. I showed up for the set that day
and it was like "I'm going to be gang banged by
ten porn stars. Men and women. They are all going
to fuck my ass and this is the first time I've done
it." I've never had sex with ten people at once.
It was totally amazing. For me it was the ultimate
feminist gangbang because I got to control the whole
situation. That's why we put that clip at the end
where I'm going through like a firing squad, telling
them "OK you're going to get this toy and you're
going to put it in this and then you're going to
fuck me here" and they were all laughing at me.
But if you notice you'll see that they pretty much
followed the script. They all looked at me like
"Who is this woman? We've never experienced anything
like this." For me knowing that I could set the
rules was totally liberating and once it started
I could completely let go and I did. I really, really
got into it.
TT: I did.
I had several orgasms including one where I practically
pushed Kyle out of me, it was so intense. It was
really fun. It was probably one of the most crazy,
unique things I have ever done in my life. I don't
quite know how I'm going to top it at this point.
Do you have your own line of toys?
not exactly a line, but I have this signature
butt plug. It's called the Tristan. I helped design
it. It's produced by this great women-owned sex
toy company called Vixen Creations in San Francisco.
They are a really great company and they make
top-notch sex toys. They're all silicone and are
more expensive than like a Doc Johnson thing but
are well worth it. Having a butt plug named after
me is a dream come true and it makes my mother
What is your favorite scene in your movie?
TT: I would
have to say the very end. I had a little surprise
cooked up in my own head which was at the very
end I was going to tell Buttman to put on a latex
glove and put his fingers in my ass. No one knew
about that. It was a complete shocker to every
single person on the set, including Buttman. He
was a little taken aback. He's HIV positive so
I was sort of mak
statement about safer sex. He was genuinely
surprised and it's hard to catch him off guard.
Just when he thinks he's got my number I turn
the tables on him.
What awards did the movie win?
won in the Best Anal-Themed Release category.
It was so funny; my mom said, "How many people
could you possibly be up against in that category?"
not knowing that I could be up against like
6000 titles. I was up against people like Seymore
Butts and Rocco and some of the real pros in
the business who I admire. To win in that category
was really overwhelming. Then I won in the Best
Group Sex Scene category for the orgy which
was my scene and that was also really great.
I also won an XRCO award for Best Group Scene.
Porn seems to be getting more mainstream,
and with all its emphasis on anal, the masses
are in for a revolution.
is important. I had this radio guy tell me once,
"Well our guests usually are those who do politically,
culturally and socially significant work and
you don't really fall into that category." It's
like if you don't think that teaching the world
how to have safe and pleasurable anal sex is
culturally or politically significant then you
are out of your mind.