"Can we, as a country, all
: May 2004: Stayin'
summers ago, I was riding the subway to Brooklyn
at 4AM in short shorts and halter tops. Locals marveled
at my willful stupidity. I said it was safer than
walking. Then a co-worker got mugged in the elevator
of her apartment building...her fancy doorman apartment
building. She screamed bloody murder and got lucky.
But it was a wake-up call for all of us, and the
old lady who looked after us office gals passed
around this email. I feel obliged to pass it on
ain't no New York, but it's got lots of dark corners
and scary streets. Hell I got chased several summers
ago, walking up Broadway by PSU on a busy Friday
night. There were lots of drunken frat boys everywhere,
but I wasn't counting on them to stop the ominous-voiced
stranger who asked me what time it was, from behind,
then quickened as I quickened and finally ran after
me when I RAN. I will never walk downtown Portland
at night again. I bike, drive or take cabs. One
brush like that was more than enough for me.
of course there are the stats. They say one in three
women will be sexually assaulted in her life. That's
hard to believe...until you start asking around.
Most women aren't too forthcoming with the details
of how they got raped at knife point in Costa Rica,
or at their college dorm in Colorado, or had a stranger's
baby while at Harvard (as three of my friends confessed
after I'd known them for years). The world is a
nice enough place, but predators are out there,
and they're looking for YOU. If you know how to
avoid serious trouble, you're less likely to run
into it. And what's not sexy about a girl who knows
how to kick out a taillight from the inside of a
trunk? [And Hallie, carry your fucking mace!!] --viva
TIPS ON STAYING
ALIVE FOR WOMEN
are three reasons women are easy targets for random
acts of violence:
of awareness. You MUST know where you are and
what's going on around you.
language. Keep your head up, swing your arms,
stand up straight.
place, wrong time. DON'T walk alone in an alley
or drive in a bad neighborhood at night.
have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping,
eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their
checkbook, making a list, etc.). This makes it
easy for a predator to get in the passenger side,
put a gun to your head and tell you where to drive.
AS SOON AS YOU GET IN YOUR CAR, LOCK THE DOORS
mental notes as you walk to your car. Be aware:
look around you, look into your car, at the passenger
side and in the back seat.
you are parked next to a big van, enter your car
from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack
their victims by pulling them into their vans
while they are attempting to get into their cars.
at the car parked on the driver's side of your
vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is
sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you
may want to walk back into the mall/work and get
a guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS
ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. Better paranoid
take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells
are horrible places to be alone and the perfect
not get on an elevator if there is a weirdo already
on there. (Of course bad men don't always look
not stand back in the corners of the elevator.
Be near the front, by the doors, ready to get
you get on the elevator on the 25th floor and
the Boogie Man gets on on the 22nd, get off when
he gets on.
the predator has a gun and you are not under his
control, ALWAYS RUN!
only make 4 of 10 shots when they are in range
of 3-9 feet. This is due to stress.
predator will only hit you (a running target)
4 in 100 times. And even then, it most likely
WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!
women, we are always trying to be sympathetic.
STOP IT! It may get you raped or killed.
killer Ted Bundy was a good-looking, well-educated
man who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting
women. He walked with a cane or a limp and often
asked for help into his vehicle or with his vehicle,
which is when he abducted his next victim.
are adept at what they do. Say there's a man in
a parking lot who says he's handicapped and needs
out of his car. THIS IS OFTEN A TRAP. See if
there isn't a policeman or security person who
can help. Or, walk away. Better to feel callous
than to feel stupid, terrified and dead.
to save your life if you have gotten into a
REACT IMMEDIATELY. If he abducts you in the
parking lot and is taking you to an abandoned
area, DON'T LET HIM GET YOU TO THAT AREA. If
you are driving, react immediately and crash
your car while still going 5 mph. If he's driving,
find the right time and stick your fingers in
his eyes. He must watch the road, so choose
an unsuspecting time and gouge him. It is your
ONLY defense. While he is in shock, GET OUT.
(This sounds gross, but the alternative is your
fault if you don't act.)
RESIST. Don't go along with him. Run if you
are able. DON'T EVER GIVE UP! You DO NOT want
to get to the crime scene.
If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car,
kick out the taillights and stick your arm out
the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver
won't see you but everybody else will. This
has saved lives.
keep your distance when walking past strangers
on the street or in dark areas.
DOWNS: Make every effort to avoid this by ALWAYS
keeping your car in good order.
If your car breaks down: LOCK YOUR DOORS.
You better have a cell phone so you can call
If you don't have a cell phone (shame on you),
keep a blanket, warm jacket, a pair of boots
and a flashlight in your car.
If it's noon on a business day, you may want
to put your hazards on and walk to safety.
If it's 2AM, put on your warm clothes and
walk to a lighted area. You are a perfect
target if you are sitting in your car broken
down. Predators search the highway for easy
targets like you.
If you're on a desolate road, walk away from
your car (in your warm clothes) and go to
some bushes or an area AWAY from your vehicles.
It will be cold and uncomfortable but you
DO NOT want to stay in your car, and there
are no psycho bogeymen waiting in the bushes
who knew you were going to break down then
Physical defenses that can be used against
a violent predator:
The elbow is the strongest point on your body.
If you are close enough to use it, do!
The EYES are the most vulnerable part of the
body. Poke him there HARD. It may be your
only window of opportunity.
The neck is also a vulnerable spot, but you
MUST know where to grip AND HAVE THE STRENGTH
to cut off his breath.
The last place is the KNEES. Everyone's knees
are very vulnerable, and a swift kick there
will take anyone down.
cautionary note about these things. If you
do not do these things right the first time,
you are in trouble because it will only anger
the individual, and that anger will be TAKEN
OUT ON YOU. Be forceful. Think KILL BILL.
If you are walking alone in the dark (which
you shouldn't be) and you find you are being
followed or chased:
Scream "FIRE!" and not "help." People don't
want to get involved when people yell "help,"
but "fire" draws attention because people
Find an obstacle, such as a parked car, and
run around it like ring-around-the-rosey.
This may sound silly, but it has SAVED LIVES.
Your last hope is getting under the car. Once
you are under there, there are tons of things
to hold on to, and he will not be able to
get you out and will most likely not come
under after you. Usually they give up by this
point. The catch here is that YOU MUST PRACTICE
GETTING UNDER THE CAR. You must have a plan
(he will have one). Know if you will be going
on your back, front, from the side or back
of the car. Then practice.
Never let yourself or anyone that you know
be a "closer" in any type of business (bar,
store, restaurant, gas station). [This is
unrealistic for many people, but I know a
girl who was abducted from her closing shift
at a gas station and she's still gone. They
they found some of her teeth, though. Another
friend of mine was jumped as she was leaving
her shift at an Old Town bar. Someone had
actually messed with her car so it wouldn't
start. She screamed and got lucky. ALWAYS
ALWAYS get someone you trust to walk you
to your car, and see that it starts. --ed.]
die EVERY MINUTE from violent crimes. They
expected to go to bed tonight and get up
tomorrow. No one expects it, but we must
be prepared and aware so that we HAVE A
PLAN. BE PREPARED TO ACT! ACT HARD! HAVE
to the guy who gave this seminar and the
gal who wrote the email. By the time this
info trickled down to me they were anonymous
cyber people. Hopefully they will not sue
us for using their riveting writing uncredited.
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